
Male Impotence >>
What is it?Impotence is the failure to achieve or maintain your erection. Some men can initially get an erection but as they try to reach climax, their erection fades. Some men's erec...
Anal sex >>
I told a patient who had never been able to have anal sex to buy a small dildo and practice inserting it. I promised that with time he would get used to putting things in his anus. He came back a month...
Oral sex >>
PhysiologyYour mouth leads to the back of your throat, and together your mouth and throat are called your oropharynx. Your mouth and throat are lined with mucous membranes. These mucous mem...
Why Have Sex? >>
Why do gay and bi men have sex? Here are a few reasons:Exercise, pleasure, escape, for money, addiction, want to, need to feel wanted, need to be loved, to orgasm, for fun, physical need, a bed ...
Escorts introduction >>
For example you meet a cute guy a bit younger then you and you take him to a fancy restaurant where you order an expensive wine and he orders the lobster. Then later on in the night you end up having w...
Occasional pay for play >>
Instead if an opportunity arises for making a bit of money they take it. Often you might see older gay businessmen offering younger cute guys some money to sleep with them, and sometimes this works, an...
Bathhouses and bookstores >>
In the early eighties gay sex venues were almost universally condemned as a breeding place of the HIV / AIDS virus. However as more was discovered about the virus and ways to practice safer sex, the ve...
Tribal sex >>
It’s well past midnight now and Richard drives off and heads downtown to his loft with William. The bass beat still makes his head pound – but thatâ€â„Â...
Cruising public sex venues >>
Common public sex venuesAn unusual peculiarity of the gay scene that harks back to the period when gay sex was illegal and like minded men were difficult to find. Easy anonymous sex can be ...
Addicted to sex? >>
Gay culture places a great deal of emphasis on sex. Most publications in our community feature hunky, barely-clothed models to get our attention and contain ads for phone sex lines, models and escorts,...
Not using condoms >>
Several studies across the globe in the last few years indicate an increase in willingness by men surveyed to engage in unsafe sex because of the advent of protease inhibitors. Does this mean "bareb...
Female condom >>
The idea is simple enough: The small end is inserted into the anus with the large ring staying on the outside. In this way, the insertive partner can slide in and out without exchanging any body fluids...
Using a condom >>
What kind of condoms are best for men who have sex with men?There are no condoms specifically made for man-to-man sex, but some are better choices than others. Latex condoms are the best choic...
To tell or not >>
More and more people are choosing to reveal their HIV status to the world. People like Olympic medalists Greg Louganis and Rudy Galindo, boxing titleholder Tommy Morrison, basketball superstar Magic...
Mental health and HIV >>
The important thing is to break the isolation. If you decide to seek support, ask yourself what might best suit your needs: Individual, one-on-one, and confidential counseling<...
The psychological complexities of the HIV+ man >>
Accordingly, I've decided to list a baker's dozen of the major issues I've encountered in talking with hundreds of HIV positive men over the past decade. These are the variables that determine the uniq...
Positive/negative relationships >>
So how did he end up with an HIV-negative lover three years later? He found out that his heart couldn't tell a negative guy from a positive one, and he fell in love with someone whose status wasn...
Drugs and sex >>
Someone who is trading sex for drugs might find it difficult to set limits on what they are willing to do. Anyone using drugs is less likely to remember about using protection, or to care about it. ...
Nicotine >>
I was harassed a lot in high school. I wasn't athletic... terrible on the field. The jocks never bothered the smokers -- it was like some unwritten law. So I started smoking, swapping cigarettes wit...
Poppers >>
Also known as: Amyl nitrite, Butyl nitriteAmyl and Butyl nitrites were designed to treat angina (chest pain) and not (shock of shocks) to make your head spin. Poppers are mostly sold in ...
Prozac >>
Also known as: Fluoxetine hydrochlorideThe statistics about depression are, well, sobering. More than 18 million people in the United States alone suffer from it, two-thirds of whom don'...
Anabolic steroids >>
Also know as: Anavar, Deca-Durabolin, Dianabol, Nandrolone, Sustanon, Stanozolol 250. Users often refer to them simply as 'roids'.Homosexual men claimed less satisfaction with their bodi...
Alcohol >>
Given the ubiquity of alcohol in most Western cultures, it isn't at all surprising that bars and clubs continue to be important landmarks on the gay and lesbian social landscape. Indeed, for many ju...
Crystal >>
Also known as: Crystal Meth, Methamphetamine, Tina. Pronunciation: meth-am-fet-ahmeen "The first time a friend gave me some crystal I thought it would be just like coke. Two days later, when...
Cocaine >>
Also known as: "Blow", Coke, "Toot", "C", "Candy", "Charlie", "Snow" "It used to be fun. We'd pick up a little before hitting the clubs and it was, you know a lift, a little rush. But after ...
Drugs & Complications >>
Awareness to the effects of party drugs is necessary to reducing the prevalence of these diseases, which can cause lifelong effects and death. Lifestyle factors common to many gay men...
Hepatitis B >>
Chronic infection can lead to cirrhosis (scarring) of the liver, liver cancer and even death. New infections of Hepatitis B per year have declined from an average of 260,000 in the 1980s to about 78,00...
HIV >>
AIDS has transformed American culture. It has galvanized the community of gay men -- and to some extent, lesbians -- and brought them to the attention of mainstream culture with both good and ba...
Syphilis >>
Although physicians have been able to successfully treat syphilis since the advent of penicillin in 1943, many cases still go undiagnosed. If ignored, the disease can be fatal.What is it? ...
Tips for Staying Safe >>
Knowing what to do counts only if knowledge gets translated into action. Here are some ways you can put good intentions into practice.
Keep A Clear Line In Mind About What You Will Or...
Online Sexual Addiction >>
Cybersexual Addiction has become a specific sub-type of Internet addiction. It has been estimated that 1 in 5 Internet addicts are engaged in some form of on-line sexual activity (primarily viewing ...
What makes a relationship a healthy one? >>
By John R. Ballew, M.S., L.P.C.
There is a saying that healthy families are alike, but unhappy ones are each unhappy in their own unique way. I'm not certain that this is strictly acc...
Dating Married Men >>
Anyone who expresses an opinion is likely to tell you that dating a married man is not a good idea. So why do so many gay men have a story about how at one time or another they got involved with a m...
Lost in Love? >>
Relationships are a dance in which sometimes one person leads and sometimes the other does. The dance can be awkward - especially if you are first learning the steps or when you have a new dance par...
Sexual Orientation >>
Sexual orientation refers to the emotional, romantic, sexual and affectional attraction of an individual to a particular gender. The term orientation is generally used by professionals and researche...
Meeting Men >>
"So where do you go to meet men around here?" No telling how many single bi men have had that conversation. Meeting eligible men is a prime part of the dating scene, but it isn't always ea...
How to Communicate with your Partner >>
Disagreements aren't necessarily bad. Couples that never argue are often in pretty boring relationships. Whatever the area of conflict, though, resolving the inevitable disagreements in relationship...
Use Touch in a Relationship >>
Developing skill with touch is an important part of having successful relationships. Touch is critical to human beings. The love and support communicated through touch affirms our connection to othe...
Be Assertive in Your Communication >>
Being assertive is not about being pushy or superior. It's about communicating what you want in a clear, level headed manner. Making decisions that you are happy with, whether it be in your sex life...